When I mentioned earlier this week Iād still been thinking about blogging during my absence fromā¦blogging, I canāt say I seriously thought Iād write the poop blog I tossed out in my list of ruminations.
Well, š©. Spellcheck doesnāt like the plural of rumination. Is one the legal limit?
Also, shitā¦a conversation I had whilst bellied up this evening tilted the scales in yourā¦favor? So here goes! Buckle in, clench up and read on!
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Years ago – thatās how long Iāve proChristinated actually putting finger to phone on this potential post – I read something on an Instagram influencerās page that gave me pause. He used to post surveys as part of his entertainment menu. Kind of fun, if only to see peopleās answers and gauge their honesty in an anonymous situation.
He admitted he didnāt – hmm, how to put this – waste crapping paper when he š©ed before getting in the shower.
<needle skip>
I couldnāt believe the admission. Debated quitting social media, did I. Hmm. Imagine my horror when he put that practice to a poll.
The folks who employed a similar life choice were deep into double-digits in the results. I considered the reality that many of these respondents probably needed parental controls enabled on their electronic devices. Then again, someone who deuces out and takes the Klingons to the shower clearly didnāt enter adulthood with the benefit of hands-on parenting.
This, by the way, was a gay guy. The number of times Iāve heard a potential playmate declare the need to clean out before meeting up has pretty much become a deal breaker for me. Weāre not making porn.
But thatās the younger generation of The Gays. Thanks to AIDS, they raised themselves. Apparently with the help of gay porn, and here we mind-bogglingly are.
Which leads us to š©2)
My regular guy – absolutely not boyfriend material but enthusiastically gets the job done – and thatās all Iām looking for at this juncture in life.
Heās in his mid-30s. Good looking guy – hot, actually – but significantly busted up – not from life, but not not from life. Itās just that Iāve known him for close to a decade and heās not gotten less busted up.
Mentally or physically.
And Iām not saving any more Stupid American gay guys – let alone any Stupid Americans – from themselves. My batting average – thanks to my āLeave āem better than you found āemā credo – is respectable. Still, at this point in his adulthood, he needs to be responsible for becoming an adult at some point – youāre not allowed to continue to be a busted up adult just because your parents sucked. I expect people – and this is why Iām not well liked – to own their shit instead of shuffling their deck of victim cards and dealing everyone on the planet in for a fucked up hand of Go Fish. And Iām not investing in men these days, so Iām not even trying to save him when heās putting less energy into it that I am by admitting Iām not trying.
Need a second to let all that swirl out?
I do admit that Iāve actually gotten to the point where I have begun checking to see if heās recently injured himself – randomly occurring cuts, falls, motorcycle or scooter accidents, the occasional stabbingsā¦yes, more than once this happened – because someone else enduring pain does not get me closer. So thatās just me being selfish.
Last time I saw him, I failed to check-in on his well-being before making a play date. Heād just had a biopsy of a hard to reach area. And he still wanted me to reach it, if you will.
Literallyā¦WTF.
Hereās the deal, though, heās obsessed with his dismount. The only times he hasnāt hopped off pop and immediately spun around to inspect, urgently asking, āIs it dirty? Oh, godā¦I know itās dirty.ā have been the times heās fallen asleep immediately afterward.
Setting aside that none of my pronouns are āitā or it-adjacent, my responses are always one of two: āWere we filming without my knowledge?ā or, my favorite, āIf youāre gonna play in the backyard, you canāt complain if you end up a little muddy.ā
Honestly, the falling asleep is harder for me to handle. Too intimate.
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Houseless people pooping in my front yard, aka: the North Park Blocks. Honestly, the core and quad strength this takes impresses me. Not to mention the confidence – I know Iām weak, itās the accidentally shitting on my dropped drawers or, equally likely, falling into my own waste that really brings out my golf clap for these folks.
Recently, though, Iāve caught myself slow walking with a healthy dose of side eye when I witness these shitnannigans.
Why?
Because I read that booty bumping is the new rage for our drugged up citizenry. Itās always been a thing because nostrils wear out, I suppose, but only marginally a thing. Now, itās something to the point that you hear soccer moms mentioning the phenomenon casually while waiting for their PSLs.
So I wanna know whatās going on when I come upon a squat-in-progress. Imagine my overt un-coolness. āYouāre just shitting, right?!? You better not be shoving drugs up your butt in my neighborhood!ā
If youāve made it this far, letās unbury the lede, shall we?
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DB had a knee replacement surgery yesterday, so Iāve been minimally slowing my roll and staying home. However, he sent me a day two pic this evening and it sent me out to calm my nerves. It wasnāt a bad pic, just disturbing in the way that you see/hear something and feel what your eyes are processing in your gut.
So I went out for a drink!
I bellied up at my usual and surprised the bartender by ordering a Manhattan – in DBās honor.
The affable guy from the fly-overs sitting to my left commented that it must have been quite a week after seeing the bartenderās surprise. I cheekily told him sitting on my couch dissociating hadnāt been cutting it.
To his credit, he asked what that meant. He admitted heād heard the phrase ādissociatingā before, but didnāt get it and had never asked. Mainly, I suspect because he hears it from a demographic that colors their hair, but not to cover grays.
The Stranger-in-a-Bar phenomenon pays off again.
After checking his tolerance for <ahem> blue humor, I asked him, āYou know that feeling you get when youāre wiping your ass after a crap?ā
He vamped for a second, the bartender offered him another beer that was quickly accepted and he managed to compose himself.
āI guess I donāt feel anything when I wipe my assā, he says. Note the absent question mark at the end of his sentence. I was not buying that and mentally added it back in.
āAnd thatās dissociating!ā
The look he gave me told me everything I needed to know about him.
Realization that not only had he buried the fact that nerve endings exist, even in areas you donāt acknowledge.
Appropriate mortification that heād unquestioningly believed what our puritanical societal norms had programmed him to believe about his own butthole.
Liberation at the realization that those two āthoughtsā no longer held power over his being.
He laughed the most carefree laugh Iāve seen come out of a middle-aged denizen of the fly-overs. As I was thinking, āMy work here is doneā and wondering if I should ask him if he wipes his butt when he poops before getting in the shower or not, the bartender brought his check and said, āIt was just the five beers, right?ā
It was 7 oāclock and this place opens at 4, soā¦five is a lot of beers in three hours.
Way to snatch my woke victory, bartender.
Seriously, thoughā¦howād you like that full circle ending? Thatās what it takes to get me out of my head about writing a poop blog.